If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. 3 If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.9 For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10 but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears. 11 When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. 12 For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror;then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
1 Corinthians 13 NIV
We have got to stop flooding our culture with marriage killers! I know that this is probably going to be one of those "borderline" posts, but I must say that I have to share this viewpoint because sadly there are many marriages that are being murdered every single day.
Movies like Magic Mike (DVD)
, books like Fifty Shades Trilogy (Fifty Shades of Grey / Fifty Shades Darker / Fifty Shades Freed)
. and other "soft porn" items are destroying the idea of marriage every time a scene is seen or page is turned. There are some of you who are going to want to come at me with a lame excuse of "it helped my marriage because it fueled my imagination". That is nothing but a pile of manure. Love does not dishonor. If you are "needing excitement" in your love life, then by adding these items to your imagination is sadly dishonoring your husband! Why? Because you just flat out said (by your actions) that you are no longer "excited" by your husband anymore so you need to go pretend. Love does not delight in evil! Lewdness is evil.
Same goes for any "romance" novel. I say this lightly but many of these books give a false sense of what a "marriage" should look like in the minds of many. Comparing your marriage relationship with those written in books is very sad and you are more likely than not going to be on the disappointed side.
Mind you this is just my view point but when I keep seeing posts all over Facebook about how a husband should act by wives who are constantly comparing their husband to fictional characters, it just hurts deep inside. My heart hurts because sadly because they want their relationship to mirror something that is not real!
When your in a marriage it is NOT just about you! As a wife, I can tell you that if you GIVE more than you are, you will not need anything to fuel that imagination! If you are a husband.. if you GIVE more . you will not have to have your imagination fueled either! Try it! And when I say "GIVE" I mean time, energy, everything! Try it! What do you have to lose? A selfish mindset? The benefits are amazing, and you will see the change start taking place most likely immediately! Oh yeah, one more thing. Stop complaining about what you "need" to do in your day. Your killing your marriage and the atmosphere in your home. Do those things that need to be done in love ~ and appreciation and you will see changes that you will not experience by reading it in a book or watching it in a movie.
, books like Fifty Shades Trilogy (Fifty Shades of Grey / Fifty Shades Darker / Fifty Shades Freed). and other "soft porn" items are destroying the idea of marriage every time a scene is seen or page is turned. There are some of you who are going to want to come at me with a lame excuse of "it helped my marriage because it fueled my imagination". That is nothing but a pile of manure. Love does not dishonor. If you are "needing excitement" in your love life, then by adding these items to your imagination is sadly dishonoring your husband! Why? Because you just flat out said (by your actions) that you are no longer "excited" by your husband anymore so you need to go pretend. Love does not delight in evil! Lewdness is evil.Same goes for any "romance" novel. I say this lightly but many of these books give a false sense of what a "marriage" should look like in the minds of many. Comparing your marriage relationship with those written in books is very sad and you are more likely than not going to be on the disappointed side.
Mind you this is just my view point but when I keep seeing posts all over Facebook about how a husband should act by wives who are constantly comparing their husband to fictional characters, it just hurts deep inside. My heart hurts because sadly because they want their relationship to mirror something that is not real!
When your in a marriage it is NOT just about you! As a wife, I can tell you that if you GIVE more than you are, you will not need anything to fuel that imagination! If you are a husband.. if you GIVE more . you will not have to have your imagination fueled either! Try it! And when I say "GIVE" I mean time, energy, everything! Try it! What do you have to lose? A selfish mindset? The benefits are amazing, and you will see the change start taking place most likely immediately! Oh yeah, one more thing. Stop complaining about what you "need" to do in your day. Your killing your marriage and the atmosphere in your home. Do those things that need to be done in love ~ and appreciation and you will see changes that you will not experience by reading it in a book or watching it in a movie.
I seen that movie and I read the 1st book and liked none of them and I couldn't agree with you more. If you don't like your marriage then change yourself and quit trying to change the other person. It has to start with self and yes complaining is a relationship killer I saw that between my oldest son and his now soon to be ex wife.
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